Deepening Intimacy
Deepen your intimacy from a foundation of trust.
For couples who already share trust and safety and are ready to grow closer emotionally, physically and sexually, and for individuals preparing themselves for that depth of partnership. Guided by Flowa Grace, with Jake embodying the work alongside her.
Every journey begins with a free 45-minute Vision Call for both partners, so we can discover together whether this is the right path for your relationship.
Intimacy is deep attunement, felt in every layer of you
When we talk about intimacy, we mean something far wider than sex. We mean holistic intimacy: the deep attunement of being truly present with yourself and another, and letting that presence move through every layer of your connection.
It lives in the emotional, in how safely you can feel and share what's real. It lives in the spiritual, in the sense of meeting each other beyond roles and routines. It lives in the physical, in touch, closeness and the language of the nervous system. And it lives in the sexual, in desire, play and pleasure that grow from presence rather than performance.
These layers are woven together. When one opens, the others often follow, and that's why we work with the whole of you rather than one piece at a time.
We also want to be clear that sexuality is a real and welcome part of this work. There is a genuine intimacy crisis in our world. So many people go years without attuned touch, emotional closeness or a sexuality that truly nourishes them, often without even having words for what's missing.
We believe deep human connection, with people we trust and feel safe with, is essential. All humans have needs. Just as we need food, water and air, we need attuned touch, emotional intimacy, presence and a fulfilling sexuality. We speak about these needs openly and without shame, and we genuinely want to help you get them met.
At a glance
Committed couples who already share a foundation of trust and safety, and who are both fully ready to do the work together. Individuals preparing for deep partnership can work with us too.
Relationships where there is any abuse or ongoing harm, or where one partner is unsure about doing the work. If deeper trauma needs healing first, the Integrative Container is the more supportive path.
Eight weekly sessions on Zoom to begin, wherever you are in the world. In-person intensives can be arranged for couples who want to go deeper.
Eight weeks is a beginning, not a limit. If continuing feels supportive, we keep going together, shaping ongoing sessions around where you are and what you want to deepen next.
Flowa Grace leads the teaching and coaching. Jake joins as a grounded, embodied presence, especially for the men.
Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, attachment-informed practice and relational work, all applied to the living connection between you.
Practices and home exercises that help the work take root in your everyday life together.
Tools to regulate and repair together, clear language for desire, requests and boundaries, and a felt sense of closeness you can keep coming back to.
We'll share the investment on your Vision Call, once we know this journey is the right fit for you.
You love each other, and you sense there's more
More presence, more ease in your bodies, and more of the closeness that makes you both feel met.
There's real trust between you, and a foundation you've built together over time. Still, something in you knows your connection can go deeper than it does right now.
Even strong relationships drift into routine. Life fills up, patterns quietly settle in, and intimacy slowly becomes something you remember more than something you live. Many couples become wonderful partners and roommates while the lover in them waits patiently in the background.
This journey gives you structure, skilled guidance and practical tools to come back to each other on purpose. You'll understand what is really happening between you, learn to stay present when things get tender, and discover new depths of emotional, physical and sexual intimacy together.
You'll practise revealing your desires, making clear requests and holding your boundaries, with homework between sessions that carries the work into your everyday life.
The journey
You'll move from understanding what's happening between you to living a deeper intimacy every day. After the first eight weeks, you're welcome to continue for as long as it feels supportive.
Understanding your connection
We map where you feel close, where you lose each other and what each of you is longing for. Then we name the patterns you fall into, and how each of your histories shows up between you.
Tools for presence
You'll learn somatic skills to regulate your nervous systems and stay present in tender moments. Through Internal Family Systems, you'll recognise the parts of you that take over in conflict or closeness, and learn to lead from your truest self.
Accountability with care
You'll practise owning your impact and holding each other accountable from love rather than blame, so repair becomes something you can trust.
Tailored deepening
The final sessions are shaped around your goals as a couple. Depending on where you most want to grow, we may focus on emotional intimacy, embodied touch, desire and polarity, or sexual connection. If you choose to continue, these sessions keep evolving with you.
How we work with you
Every couple and every person is different, so we draw from a wide set of tools and follow what's alive for you, at a pace that feels safe.
Grounded in Somatic Experiencing, we help you notice what's happening in your body, regulate together, and stay present when things get tender.
Internal Family Systems helps you meet the protective parts that take over in conflict or closeness, with curiosity instead of judgment.
Drawing on decades of meditation and Vipassana practice, we help you cultivate the steady inner presence that makes deep attunement possible.
We look at the loops you fall into, where they came from, and how to move from reacting to responding.
Structured practices for honest sharing, deep listening and revealing what's true, so connection becomes something you practise rather than hope for.
You'll learn to name what you want, make clear requests and hold your boundaries, with consent as an ongoing, living conversation.
Breath, presence and tantra as an energetic and spiritual practice, so closeness becomes something you feel rather than something you think about.
We explore the layers of friendship, partnership and lovership, and help you consciously shape the relationship you actually want.
We're kink-aware, poly and ENM affirming, and LGBTQ2S+ inclusive. Monogamous or open, vanilla or kinky, new to this or experienced, every relationship structure, age and body is welcome here.
Preparing yourself for deep partnership
Arrive in your next relationship already knowing how to stay present.
We also work with individuals who are preparing for this kind of partnership. Maybe you're dating and keep meeting the same dynamics, or you sense that the depth of intimacy you long for asks something new of you first.
Through dating coaching and embodied relational practice, we help you understand your patterns, build trust in your body and your boundaries, and become someone who is ready to meet a partner fully. You'll arrive in your next relationship already knowing how to stay present, ask for what you want and receive what's offered.
Flowa guides the work, and Jake embodies it alongside her
Flowa Grace is a Registered Clinical Counsellor, somatic therapist and author of Enlightened Relating for a Nu Earth. She holds a graduate degree in psychology and integrates Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems and attachment-informed practice with years of relational and embodiment work.
Jake is a builder by nature, someone who has spent years working on houses and engines and who understands things by touching them, fixing them and seeing how they fit together. He lives close to the land in the Canadian mountains, where his days are full of hard physical work and outdoor adventure. He brings that same steady, unhurried presence into every session. He genuinely wants to support individuals and couples to heal, feel safe and get their needs met, and he has a gift for helping them relax, get out of their heads and feel at home in their bodies.
For many men, it's easier to relax into connection when another man is there showing what attunement can look like in the body, rather than just talking about it. Together, Flowa and Jake offer a living example of the presence this journey invites.
This work is for people who are ready to show up
A strong fit when you
- share a foundation of trust and safety
- are both fully committed, with two feet in
- want to deepen emotional, physical and sexual intimacy together
- are willing to look honestly at your own patterns and take responsibility for your part
Not the right fit when
- there is any abuse or ongoing harm in the relationship
- one partner is unsure about doing the work
- you're working through deeper trauma or long-standing patterns that need healing first
For deeper healing, the Integrative Container offers a more holistic path for individuals and couples, with a three-month minimum.
How we work
The work is educational and experiential. Any touch practice happens only between the two of you, clothed, at your own pace and with ongoing consent. Every session is grounded in presence, safety and care for you both.
Getting to know the work
A few honest answers about how we work and what to expect.
What led Flowa to this work?
Honestly, it felt like the most natural path, because everything she'd lived kept pointing her here. Her own healing came first, through years of meditation, twenty Vipassana courses and working through family and generational patterns. Along the way, people started coming to her to be heard, and she saw that what she'd learned could help them find their own way.
Her Master's in Psychology gave a framework to what she'd been living, and somatic work brought the body into it. As she puts it, "I didn't choose this so much as recognize it."
Why do people usually come?
Most people come because they're ready, not because of a crisis. They've known for a while that they want to deepen their connection, and until now there simply wasn't the space or capacity. Work, family or survival mode took everything.
For others it's simply time. They've put it off long enough, and they don't want to wait any longer. Sometimes a transition or a tender moment is what brings that readiness to the surface.
What do people want to change?
People often arrive saying things like "we keep having the same conversation," "we feel more like roommates than lovers," "our desire has drifted apart" or "I keep repeating the same patterns when I date."
Goals usually start as getting rid of something, like conflict, distance or a habit. As the work unfolds, they shift toward building something: trust, closeness, desire, and feeling at home in your own body and with each other.
Do you fix us? Who does the work?
Picture the two of you and us sitting side by side, all facing a third chair where the issue sits. Nobody is facing off, and nobody is being diagnosed. We turn toward what's happening between you together, with curiosity.
Nobody here is broken, and the issue in that chair usually turns out to be a messenger, often a part of you trying to protect you in an old way. You do the work. Our role is to hold steady, ask the questions, notice what your bodies are saying, and keep it safe enough to look at what's tender. Little by little, you stop fighting the pattern and start understanding it, and once that happens it loosens on its own.
What if it doesn't help?
That's a very real worry, and it's often the main one: spending the time and money and having nothing change. Some people also fear being judged, or opening something they can't close again, or they've tried something before that felt like talking in circles.
That's why we work with the body and with what's actually happening between you in the room, rather than only talking about problems. People can usually feel a shift early on, and that builds trust that change is possible.
Why is Jake part of this work?
Jake genuinely desires to support individuals and couples to heal, feel safe, be healthy and get their needs met in their lives. He believes so many of us keep our most intimate selves tucked away for years, because of shame, old stories about what we're allowed to want, busy lives, or simply never having had the right space to explore. He loves being part of undoing that.
He takes pride in meeting people exactly where they are, with a steady, grounded presence that lets curiosity open slowly and safely, with no pressure and no rush. Every age, every body and every level of experience is welcome, and nobody needs to arrive having it all figured out.
What do people say about working with Flowa?
People describe working with Flowa as life-changing. She brings a rare combination of clinical training, decades of spiritual practice and deeply embodied wisdom, and she creates a space safe enough for people to go where they've never let themselves go before. For couples, that safety is where trust, tenderness, desire and passion come back to life.
The world needs more of this kind of connection, and this is what people have shared about the work.
Working with Flowa was one of the best decisions we've made to date. She is a bottomless well of love, positivity, encouragement, and knowledge in her field. We have learned more about ourselves with Flowa than we ever knew possible. If you are even considering working with her just take the plunge because it could be life changing.
J.P., a couple
Wow this woman is powerful! I was able to dive deep into places I constantly avoided. With her help, her techniques, and great space holding it helped me feel safe enough to go there.
K.I.
She will open your life in directions you may not have seen before. A path to follow that will lead you to a happier, more liberating and accepting life style, one where you're more open minded and present than you thought possible.
E.M.
After working with Flowa, even after the first session, I had noticeably changed and grown into a healthier, stronger person.
B.R.
She does everything with love and non-judgement, and stays completely grounded as she gives you guidance. I truly recommend her with my whole heart.
M.H.
I would recommend her to anybody who is ready to journey beyond their edges. This woman is the real deal!
C.K.
Begin with a Vision Call
Choose a time that suits you, whether you're coming as a couple or on your own. We'll hear what you're hoping for, explain how we work, and decide together whether this work is right for you, with no cost and no pressure.
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